Here's an interesting article. There is a marriage researcher named John Gottman who has determined a method to determine which couples will stay married. By listening to couples argue for just five minutes, he can predict with 91% accuracy who will stay married and who will divorce
He has pinpointed six signs that a couple will most likely suffer a future break-up. Having so far been happily married for 21 years, I can find no fault with his analysis.
Sign One -- A harsh startup
Sign Two -- The four horsemen of the apocalypse
- Criticism
- Contempt
- Defensiveness
- Stonewalling
Sign Three -- Flooding
Sign Four -- Body language
Sign Five -- Failed repair attempts
Sign Six -- Bad memories
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I've read some of his books and they are great!
ReplyDeleteKatieJ
Germany
Which reminds me...
ReplyDeleteA woman awoke during the night to find that her husband was not in bed. She put on her robe and went downstairs. He was sitting in the dark at the kitchen table. Though he rarely drank, he was holding a glass of whiskey. She turned on the light and saw him try to wipe away some tears before she could see.
"What's the matter? Why are you down here at this time of night? Why are you crying"
"Do you remember twenty years ago when we were dating and you were only 16?" he asked.
"Yes."
"Do you remember when your father caught us in the back seat of my car making out?"
"Yes, I remember."
"Do you remember when he shoved that shotgun in my face and said, 'Either you marry my daughter or I'll see to it you spend twenty years in jail?'"
"Yes."
He wiped another tear from his cheek and reached for the bottle, "I would have gotten out today."
Jeff - Tucson
Jeff - THAT IS GREAT!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteKatieJ
Germany