Once in awhile I get an email from a reader that is so magnificent, it blows me away. Last night I received such an email from a young woman who clearly has her head screwed on straight. I wanted to post this to give encouragement to everyone.
She says she's amazed by me. Well let me tell you, I'm amazed by her. Here's a young couple who is obviously hard working and rising to meet their challenges. I wish there were more people like them.
My name is Susan, and I've come upon your blog somehow while browsing the internet on how to garden. Let me give you a little history about me first. I am 25, married 8 years and have 2 boys ages 8 and 2. I work as a maintenance worker (a.k.a the babysitter) for Lowe's. My husband is a solar installer for a little company in town. Neither of us are high school graduates and have no formal education whatsoever. We both had incredibly toxic upbringings.
I wanted to write to you because I am AMAZED at all the things you do! I have been reading on your site and I feel like you are a role model, and a dang good one at that. My husband grew up in the country in Kansas, and has said how great it is, but me growing up in the city made me weary... what if we're not close enough to a hospital, how boring to not be close to anyone or anything to do! BUT I've always had an underlying curiosity. After reading your blog, how you get to be at home to raise your kids and be their role model and mentor... it's amazing. And growing your own food and raising your own meat... I'm just blown away!!! You have a true American dream. Not of driving a Mercedes or having the next hot gadget and owning 10 beachfront properties, but of true happiness and knowing the meaning of hard work, and most of all of family. Your blog is my new how-to guide.
You are so inspiring and your pictures are so breathtaking, and I just had to tell you that your site is a real eye-opener, and you are surely a blessing to many.
Thank you for what you do.
What a beautiful email! Thank you for absolutely making my day.
It sounds like you two had a rough start in life as well as an early introduction to some very serious responsibilities, i.e. marriage and parenthood. But clearly you are rising to the occasion with grace and strength. Seldom do I read such a well-written email from someone, formal education or not. That alone tells me you and your husband will do fine in life.
Lots of things my husband and I achieved were only achieved when we were older. Granted we got a late start on children (I was 33 and 35 when our girls were born), but remember that however difficult this phase of life may be for you, it's a phase that will eventually transition to another phase. That next phase will depend to a large extent on what choices you and your husband make. Set some goals and work toward them, and when you're our age you may be surprised how much you've achieved.
It's hard to start off so young with two children, but something tells me you guys will go far. Whatever your dream may be, whether it's moving to the country or staying home to raise your boys or anything else you long to do, if you keep making good choices you'll eventually reach your goal. Remember, those have to be GOOD choices. Staying out of debt is an excellent choice. Being the responsible and mature adults you clearly are is another excellent choice. Having a high work ethic is another choice. Keeping love and respect in your marriage is yet another choice.
For someone who isn't a high school graduate, it sounds to me like you're better educated (and certainly better spoken) than many with a college degree. People like you give me hope! God bless you and keep up the good work.
P.S. This is going on the blog. I want readers to know there are folks like you out there. Wow.