Sigh. It's happened again. A woman has just confessed she doesn't like being a mother, and spends the rest of the article justifying why she gave up full-time custody of her kids.
"Four months in [to a book research project in Japan] when her children came to visit, she had an epiphany: She didn't want to be a full-time mother anymore. When she returned to New York, she ended her 20-year marriage and chose not to be her kids' custodial parent," notes this article.
This author is also a faculty member at a college in Vermont. Do I hear just a hint of the feminist mentality that has poisoned our nation's women against their very own children? Career is supreme; to hell with the kids.
This woman says society has a "glaring double standard: When a man chooses not to be a full-time parent, it's acceptable -- or, at least, accepted. But when a woman decides to do so, it's abandonment."
No, it's abandonment either way you look at it, when either parent willfully refuses to parent his or her children.
The article goes on to describe some of the angst a couple of other women felt throughout their decision-making process to abandon their kids. One of these women is - I'm not kidding - a "spiritual advisor." Right. Has her "spiritual visions" ever considered the anguish of the kids? Of course not. The kids, we are assured, always turn out "fine." They always do, don't they? No kid could EVER be messed up by something like this.
This reminded me of another article I copied over several years ago which was so shocking I saved it: A woman so bored (bored "rigid," in fact) with her own children that she spent "much of the early years of [her] children's lives in a workaholic frenzy because the thought of spending time with them was more stressful than any journalistic assignment [she] could imagine." She considers full-time motherhood "menial" and feels that "making a child your career is a dangerous move because your marriage and sense of self can be sacrificed in the process."
The worst part is this (cough) "mother" tells her own kids how much they bore her. Great for their little budding self-esteems, isn't it? "They [her children] also accept my limitations. They stopped asking me to take them to the park (how tedious) years ago. But now when I try to entertain them and say: 'Why don't we get out the Monopoly board?' they simply look at me woefully and sigh: 'Don't bother, Mum, you'll just get bored.'"
Are people like this so selfish that they can't tolerate boredom for any length of time? Is their fear of boredom more important than playing a game with their kids?
Okay ladies, here's a thought: SUCK IT UP. Right now there's something bigger than your boredom or your precious career or any other aspect of parenting that you may dislike. You're the one that created these human beings, and you're the one who'd better damned well rise to the occasion and do your duty no matter how many career opportunities pass or how bored you are. Duty and obligation are apparently concepts the feminist mentality would like to pretend are passé because it interferes with the selfish ME mentality.
Your precious careers will be cold comfort in your old age when your kids happily abandon YOU because they don't give a rip about you. Why should they? Old folks are BORING. They're not as exciting as a CAREER. You reap what you sow, folks.