Our older daughter is getting confirmed in our church this coming Sunday. She and two other young people in our church have been attending confirmation classes for two years, so this is something of a Big Deal.
So, naturally, the thought of a pretty and appropriate new dress came to mind.
My parents are in town staying through the end of June, and they decided to take Older Daughter...(ominous drum roll)...shopping.
Putting aside the fact that both my girls hate shopping (they get that from me), they came home empty-handed. According to my mother, they went to seven or eight stores, including Sears, Penny's, and a host of smaller places, and found -- nothing.
It's not that there weren't any dresses, of course. It's that the dresses they found were patently unsuited to a church function. In other words, immodest. Lots of short skirts and spaghetti straps, according to my daughter. Even the saleswomen at the stores, she reports, admitted they had nothing suitable for church wear.
"It's funny," she mused later on. "I've seen pictures from when Grandma was a young woman, and all the dresses make women look - I don't know - elegant somehow. Gracious."
Contrast that with today, when all the dresses seem to make women look tarty. At least, all the dresses they found in regular retail stores.
"It's like the fashions for 14 to 18 year olds are now meant for 8 to 12 year olds," Older Daughter commented last night. "And fashions for girls my age are too adult."
Fortunately she has a dress (picked up at a thrift store) which is suitable to wear next Sunday, but I'll still take her shopping this week - at thrift stores. While we exclusively shop in thrift stores anyway, increasingly we're realizing that it's the only place we CAN shop if I want to keep my daughters from looking like tarts. At least thrift stores are not slaves to "fashion."