Friday, January 6, 2012

Ode to men

A friend sent this.

Here’s to all the Real Men out there...

Boys play house.
Men build homes.

Boys shack up.
Men get married.

Boys make babies.
Men raise children.

A boy won’t raise his own children
A man will raise someone else’s.

Boys invent excuses for failure.
Men produce strategies for success.

Boys look for somebody to take care of them.
Men look for someone to take care of.

Boys seek popularity.
Men demand respect and know how to give it.

This is why I love men. I have a sneaking suspicion that women who hate men have never met any. They've only known boys.


  1. Love it!! So thankful God put a real man in my life

  2. Amen!! May we add: Boys tease and torment others; Men provide for and protect them.

  3. "I have a sneaking suspicion that women who hate men have never met any. They've only known boys."

    I think you've hit on something there, Patrice. Thanks for this post. I'm so thankful I'm married to a wonderful MAN. :)

  4. Truer words were never spoken. well said.

  5. Wow, if the author is single and in her 60's I'd like to meet her! Trust me, the same could be said for Real Women. There are lots of girls out there but Real Women are very special and much more difficult to find. Montana Guy

  6. Amen...unfortunately I'm married to a boy. I'm printing this and posting on the fridge.

  7. Despite what you may have been led to believe, there are still plenty of real Men and Women in the world-it's just that boys and girls make more noise and get noticed.

  8. Thankful myself that I have pretty much only met men!

  9. Thank you, Patrice. I think I'll copy that and hang it on my fridge for a while. Hopefully my two teen-age sons will read it and think about it.

  10. This is one of the TRUEST things I've ever heard.

  11. Patrice...everyone who has sons (I have 5!) should read this and THIS:

  12. Wish I could meet a man like that! I'm surrounded by boys. Help!


  13. Patrice

    I whole heartedly agree with all the items listed and yet I felt 'uncomfortable' reading them. Why? I suspect it may be due to both my personal experiences and what I see in society (at least in the UK) today.

    What do I mean? The emphasis and onus is purely on the man, in the opinion of women. I'm fully aware that this was not how it was meant when written or how you or most of the readers will have understood it, but I suggest that a sizeable majority of women today would see it in just such a way (men have uncountable failings and are never good enough for them, but they are always better than the man deserves and if they have any failings it's because he misunderstood/doesn't appreciate her/made her).

    “Men build homes, men get married, men raise children,...). Yes they do, but only when allowed to by women (with the support of the legal system). Why would a man work hard to do all of the above when it can, and is, taken away on the whim of a woman (who is actively supported and rewarded for doing so)?

    Why is marriage declining? I'm sure there are many reasons. But foremost, here, I suspect is the assumption that failures in relationships are due solely to the mans behaviour (I don't speak of individual women, but of the current societal meme).

    I see myself as 'old fashioned', believing in respect, commitment, compromise and all the virtues listed in the original. Yet I can state with a certainty that the majority of women reading my comments, excepting yourself, would immediately jump to the conclusion that I am some weak, bitter, inadequate male. I would disagree (of course :-) )

    The modern perception is, to my mind, biased in favour of the female perspective and the increase in what women describe as 'boys' is an unintended consequence of that. Why commit when financially/socially/legally it is safer not to do so? Why get married when to do so is nothing than legally acquiescing to giving almost all you have earned to your wife when she, as most unfortunately do, decides to leave for whatever reason? Why attempt to be a real father when the children will automatically be given to the woman and you will have to fight to even see them whilst being portrayed as a dead-beat dad for not funding ever more of her lifestyle? Why offer explanations and rationales when they will be ignored and portrayed as excuses?

    I am not a misogynist (honest!) but believe 'you get what you pay for'. Men are punished for behaving like men, women are actively and financially rewarded for belittling and removing men from their and their childrens lives (again speaking for the UK). When you see the increasing numbers of ladies complaining that there are no 'real men' out there and that no one wants to marry them – well, try considering just why men would be reluctant to do so. That is another 'unintended consequence' of womens actions.

    Ladies ask your husband how he feels about the knowledge that if you, for whatever reason, suddenly decided to demand a divorce, you would be given custody of the children and he will see them if and only if you agree, you would be given the house etc. and a portion of his earnings, and if you decide to claim he was violent/aggressive/pedophile he would be seen and treated as guilty until he could prove otherwise. So in committing to you he has committed more than you know.

    So to misquote:

    “This is why I love women. I have a sneaking suspicion that men who hate women have never met any. They've only known girls. “

    Real women who believe (as opposed to blindly mouthing the terms) in commitment, marriage and equality are so unspeakably rare today that they are treasured beyond belief when found.

  14. I don't like using the word "boys" for this, because, while my sons will be men one day, they are now boys, but none of those horrible descriptions. Couldn't we use the the word "dirt bag" instead?