Saturday, September 15, 2012

Sex and the Single Girl

Here's my WND column for this weekend entitled Sex and the Single Girl, which turned out to be a surprisingly hot topic, if the number of comments are anything to go by.

Now if you want a beautiful example of a young couple who did everything in the right order -- and are glad they did -- my WND editor, Ron, sent me a short video which highlights his daughter's wedding on August 11.


  1. Lets do this kind of like a Dutch Date.
    You pay for your birth control and I'll pay for mine.
    You pay for your mistakes and I'll pay for mine.
    This might not be the best answer, but I bet it would be a big step towards bringing things under control.

    1. Conservatives have been trying to get liberal-progressives to do this for YEARS. Good luck!
      --Fred in AZ

  2. Whoops!!
    That was supposed to go under you WND column.

  3. Purfectedly stated and so true. I hope people get a clue before it is too late.

  4. This is absolutely lovely...Thanks for sharing...
    The wedding was blessed.
    Love from NC

  5. Ms. Lewis,

    I need to say first that I enjoy your blog and thank you for publishing it. Now I have to say the WND disappointed me. Here's why.

    It says in the CNN piece that you refer to that the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act ensures that "preventive care services, including contraception, will be covered by private insurance plans without co-pays or deductibles." If someone is paying for a private plan how am I paying for her plan? It's a private plan.

    "Most recently, certain political commentators have started spreading misinformation about the underlying government regulation we are discussing. To be clear, through programs such as Medicaid, the government already does and should fund contraception coverage for the poorest women in our country."
    Well she does mention government plans there.
    "But, despite the misinformation being spread, the regulation under discussion has absolutely nothing to do with government funding: It is all about the insurance policies provided by private employers and universities that are financed by individual workers, students and their families -- not taxpayers." -the point of the testimony.

    Also what about the other uses for the hormone treatments commonly referred to as "birth control" that Ms. Fluke talked about in her testimony?
    The treatments for reproductive tract diseases? Should these be thrown out with the bathwater as well? After all they were talking about policies that these people were paying for with their money not "the government's".

    Now, my first response would be "If you want your plan to pay for BC then don't work for an anti-BC organization or go to or purchase your plan from an anti-BC school." But should your employer (or educational facility) be the one that decides what you should be offered from the insurance company if YOU are the one paying a premium for it?

    You do have a great point about women needing to exercise more self control and take more responsibility. I agree with you there. The point of the testimony you're referring to was about third parties stepping in and interfering with one's ability to do so with one's own money.

    I think if you want to reach out to people that need to hear the real message about being self controlled and responsible you could have done better without the Limbaugh like rant. You're a talented writer that can do better than he did. As the piece stands, it reads like you didn't read the testimony and based your piece on shows like Limbaugh and the piece she wrote as a rebuttal to the name calling of other writers/speakers.

    You have good points to make and the talent to do so. I have seen it in other pieces you have written. Unfortunately, in this piece you come off like a talking head on the TV. If your goal is to get a bunch of 'mega-dittoes' the piece will work. If you want to get your point about responsibility out to those who need to hear it, I don't think you did as well as you could have.

    With care and with respect for the hard work you put into your craft, Kristi J.

  6. "Most contraceptive users are like Sandra Fluke – single and just wanting to rut like animals at taxpayer expense."

    I use birth control to deal with hormonal cycles which otherwise get pretty darn crazy. I'm single and practice abstinence. Not all of us are looking to "rut like animals" and to say so is insulting. I know lots of young women who are on birth control for the hormonal benefits.

    It's funny that they talk about birth control as if it is very expensive. It's not at all. $15-$30 for a basic month of pills. Free condoms are available in lots of places.

    1. The funny thing is, those pills were originally meant to help women with hormonal imbalances and help regulate their cycles so they could conceive. I've got friends who are on it for the hormonal benefits too, but if they could they would find an alternative as the pill isn't really an effective way of treating their conditions. As many women there are who are using it for its legitimate purpose, there are many many more who are using them so they can "rut like animals". I sadly have family members that do so, and its so hard not to look down on everyone that uses it because of that.

      I have a good reason not to use the pill, and its something I think everyone who's considering the pill or already are should look into. I found out that it messes with the thyroid which is like the hormonal control center for the body (ironic since the original purpose of the pill was to balance out your hormones). My mother died of Graves Disease, and as it turned out, it was the result of multiple triggers that just compounded on each other until her body literally just gave out, from a cyst in her neck she had treated when she was little, to having children, and using contraception (both when she was young and when I was in grade school). She wound up with a heart attack that weakened her further along with bronchial issues from catching everything under the sun as a result of a weakened immune system. She even had a miscarriage.

      I keep wondering if it was the pill that actually pushed her system into overdrive, being on it for so many years and around the time when her body went through the most dramatic changes that stayed with her even when she stopped taking them. I honestly believe those things are dangerous and really should not be taken for ANY reason. There are alternatives out there. What my mother had tends to be genetic, so it would be a good idea if you look into your family history for thyroid issues. All it takes is the right trigger, and it can mess you up for life. If it doesn't get treated in time, it can kill you.

      I don't think Mrs. Lewis was talking about people like you, but it is frustrating when you have women like Miss Fluke impressing on others to cover something for the sake of fake women's rights. It does make her look like she's "rutting" around, presenting herself as a slut rather than an activist. I wonder if anyone's ever told her that nobody trusts or respects a slut, including other sluts. Certainly not something to aspire to, even if it appears to be only in name.

      I'm all for dealing with the consequences of your own actions. This is the meat of the article and something that most people would rather shove away and pretend there's nothing wrong with what they're doing to themselves (and others).


    2. "Not all of us are looking to 'rut like animals' and to say so is insulting"? Patrice did NOT "say so." You even made that point in your first sentence, which was a direct quote from Patrice's article: "Most contraceptive users..." "MOST," not ALL. If you aren't like Sandra Fluke and have a legitimate reason to use birth control, like hormonal benefits, then YOU ARE ONE OF THOSE EXCEPTIONS. The way you jumped on Patrice with both feet, UNFAIRLY, I might add, makes you sound like you have a bit of a guilt complex. You need to calm down and read Patrice's articles more carefully!
      --Fred in AZ

  7. August 11th is a pretty great date.

    It's my and my husband's wedding anniversary.

    And now, as of this year, it is also my eldest daughter's and son in law's.

  8. When I was single it never occured to me for medical insurance to pay for condoms.