You know how once in a while, you stumble upon a video that rivets you in horrified fascination, and subsequently it takes you down a rabbit hole of binge-watching similar videos? This just happened to me.
To back up somewhat: Most readers know something about our fiscal history. (If not, a synopsis can be read here.) In our younger years, we got ourselves deeper in debt than we were comfortable with, though never to the point of not being able to pay our bills. We always paid our bills, but there were times we were very, very tight financially. This is one of the reasons we're huge fans of thrift stores and a cash-only lifestyle. The debt we had was all for "legitimate" cost-of-living expenses as we raised our girls, but it was still debt.
The result of many years of financial uncertainty has left me with something akin to a pathological fear of debt. The peace of mind that comes with not owing any money is hard to describe.
So when I came across a random video entitled "Let's Watch 25 Minutes of People Living Above Their Means & Going BROKE" by someone called Zac Rios, I clicked.
Oh my.
All this guy does, as far as I know, is trawl around social media, gathering up videos of people confessing (or bragging) about how much money they've spent that landed them in astronomical debt, how hard they try to justify it, and apparently why they refuse to change their ways.
Mr. Rios admits one of his reasons for posting these videos is to get viewers "scared straight" about their own spending habits. He says if he were to don a suit and tie and stand in front of a white board giving an economics lesson, most people would tune out. But this – these naked, raw, real testimonies of people who are ruining their lives through financial illiteracy – is eye-opening. Watching clip after clip after clip after clip is like watching a train wreck. I couldn't look away.
Make no mistakes: The people putting these videos on the internet are not lamenting their poverty or the hardships they're experiencing due to medical expenses, job loss, disability, or other unavoidable factors beyond their control. Instead, the clips profile people who simply spent too much on every passing "want" and either don't know or don't care that they'll never get out from under the resulting crushing debt.
Among the factors involved in these irrational decisions:
• YOLO (You Only Live Once) or "doom" spending
• Social media fueled by influencers
• The "image is everything" mindset
• Instant gratification
Influencers seem to be a major factor in this overspending trend. Having watched a number of these videos, it's clear the host focuses on living beyond one's means as a lifestyle choice, rather than genuine economic hardship. Mr. Rios explains how some of these people make staggering amounts of money, and then spend to keep up appearances. But for most, the length of time an influencer actually influences is very brief. They think it will last forever and it doesn't. As a result, many current and former influencers are economically in way over their financial heads, let alone those who watch them.
Viewer comments could be blunt:
• "Truly a case of 'Buying stuff you don't need with money you don't have to impress people you don't like.'"
• "What a world. Having $1.26 in your bank account and no debt makes you richer than 75% of the country."
• "Lots of people claim they're just living in the moment and don't understand the piper must be paid at some point."
• "The weirdest part of it is how they believe massive debt is a flex."
The incomparable Amy Dacyczyn, author of "Tightwad Gazette," once said that if you write down every single penny you spend, you can skip buying her book because you'll already know what you're spending your money on. This simple piece of advice seems to elude those mired down in YOLO-fueled spending.
Look, today's uncertain economy – with elevated prices for everything from food to property – is tough enough as it is. It's getting more difficult for ordinary Americans to scrape by on incomes that used to be adequate.The younger generation is facing an uphill battle when it comes to achieving the milestones their parents and grandparents were able to achieve. No one denies this.
But ... this level of self-inflicted financial sabotage is hard to grasp. Kudos to Mr. Rios for attempting to "scare straight" those who need it.


"Keeping up with the Jones's" was how it used to be described in the UK, living a lifestyle beyond one's means. And, I don't think that the ultra-low interest rates in the 15 years following the 2006/7 crash have helped, they have just disguised the scale of the problem for a lot of people.
ReplyDeleteI watch this guy on Youtube quite a bit, he has videos on all kinds of subjects, all very informative.
ReplyDeleteI read a book called Your Money or Your Life when I was young. I thank GOD for putting me on the frugal path.
ReplyDeleteI second that book. Several years ago I heard there was a renewed interest in it, from which generation I’m not sure. Younger than boomers for sure.
DeleteI once knew a woman who couldn't pay her phone bill. Still, she was adding on all kinds of "bells and whistles:" call waiting, unlimited texting, etc. I said to her, "Why on earth are you doing that? You already can't pay your "regular" bill. She replied, "I'm not going to pay the bill anyway; so, I might just as well get all that I can for as long as I can." I was APPALLED!!
ReplyDeleteI tried to watch the video and became so disgusted at people's ignorance and stupidity that I had to shut it off! How are some of these people still alive?!!
ReplyDeleteAlways a reminder.... on a slightly different topic.. I( recall your describing a trip to look for a Carhartt Barn Jacket or similar and today's quality . I use shopgoodwill dot com . I found several and found one made in the USA probably from the late '80's (already broken in) - $35 plus shipping . It is an auction site.You'd be amazed at the donations of never used "Stuff".
ReplyDeletel know a guy who only cared about monthly payments when he purchased something. Seller convinced him every time he could manage the payments. He didn't care what the price was, just the payment amount. LATER HE FILED BANKRUPTCY. Haven't seen him in over a decade so don't know if he wised up or not.
ReplyDeleteI think a HUGE part of these people that run-up huge debt is they do NOT have any morals as far as feeling responsible for their actions and that also causes many other BAD things for us in society such as the violence we see etc. etc. I was raised where you worked for what you got and you knew you were responsible for YOUR actions and acted accordingly. Society today is in the gutter for the most part. not all but WAAAAYYY to many are.
ReplyDeleteA recent study by Newsweek concluded that Millennials are better off financially than Boomers were at their age. All the complaining!!! I worked and saved like crazy to buy a house.
ReplyDeletehttps://www.newsweek.com/millennials-financially-better-off-boomers-same-age-1969917
RIGHTUP TO OUR PRESIDENT, NO MONEYKEEP BORROWING EVEN MONEY FOR WARS???
ReplyDeleteReally?
DeleteNobody likes or wants war. Everybody, wants peace, especially him. But the biggest terrorist threat to our country having ICBM'S and bragging about getting ready to use them on US? That was a direct threat to every person in this country. What should we do? Wait and deal with the aftermath? Or deal with the threat? No brainer. Sometimes peace demands actions to protect it.
Did you know that Iran has over 500 underground churches? In spite of the slaughter of many Christians there.
We are so blessed to be able to worship openly in this country. I look forward for the upcoming rededication of our country to Christ that's about to happen. Who else has had the backbone to do this? None that I can remember.
Is he a perfect person? No. Only Christ is.
But financially this war has been dismantling BRICS. News doesn't talk about it. That's part of why some of these countries haven't stepped up to the plate. Their moves have been checkmated.
I am much less worried about our long term economy, even though gas and groceries are up. It could have been much worse.