Thursday, December 5, 2019

Advice for old age + upcoming blog silence

Dear readers, I ask your pardon in advance for the upcoming blog silence.

You see, Younger Daughter just arrived from her overseas duty station for a brief visit (she departs next week). Older Daughter, as you know, is already here. And now my parents have flown up as well. We're having an early Christmas and enjoying a wonderful family reunion. I'm not even going to bother with the blog for a few days while we enjoy our family time.

Meanwhile I'll leave you with some "Advice for Old Age" sent by reader Ken, which I enjoyed very much.

See you next week!


Advice for Old Age
(Between 65 and death)

1. It's time to use the money you saved up. Use it and enjoy it. Don't just keep it for those who may have no notion of the sacrifices you made to get it. Remember there is nothing more dangerous than a son or daughter-in-law with big ideas for your hard-earned capital. Warning: This is also a bad time for investments, even if it seems wonderful or fool-proof. They only bring problems and worries. This is a time for you to enjoy some peace and quiet.

2. Stop worrying about the financial situation of your children and grandchildren, and don't feel bad spending your money on yourself. You've taken care of them for many years, and you've taught them what you could. You gave them an education, food, shelter and support. The responsibility is now theirs to earn their own money. (Don't forget there are charitable organizations that are always helping others in need, give some to them, but check them out first to make sure it is really being used appropriately.)

3. Keep a healthy life, without great physical effort. Do moderate exercise (like walking every day), eat well, and get your sleep. It's easy to become sick, and it gets harder to remain healthy. That is why you need to keep yourself in good shape and be aware of your medical and physical needs.

4. Always buy the best and most beautiful items for your significant other. The key goal is to enjoy your money with your partner. One day one of you will miss the other, and the money will not provide any comfort then. Enjoy it together.

5. Don't stress over the little things. You've already overcome so much in your life. You have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the present. Don't let the past drag you down and don't let the future frighten you. Feel good in the now. Small issues will soon be forgotten.

6. Regardless of age, always keep love alive. Love your partner, love life, love your family, love your neighbor. And remember: A man is not old as long as he has intelligence and affection.

7. Be proud, both inside and out. Don't stop going to your hair salon or barber, do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist, keep your perfumes and creams well stocked. When you are well-maintained on the outside, it seeps in, making you feel good and strong.

8. Don't lose sight of fashion trends for your age, but keep your own sense of style. There's nothing worse than an older person trying to wear the current fashion among youngsters. You've developed your own sense of what looks good on you – keep it and be proud of it. It's part of who you are.

9. Always stay up-to-date. Read newspapers, watch the news. Go online and read what people are saying. Make sure you have an active email account and try to use some of those social networks. You'll be surprised what old friends you'll meet. Keeping in touch with what is going on and with the people you know is important at any age.

10. Respect the younger generation and their opinions. They may not have the same ideals as you, but they are the future, and will take the world in their direction. Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them that yesterday's wisdom still applies today.

11. Never use the phrase "In my time." Your time is now. As long as you're alive, you are part of this time. You may have been younger, but you are still you now, having fun and enjoying life.

12. Some people embrace their golden years, while others become bitter and surly. Life is too short to waste your days on the latter. Spend your time with positive, cheerful people. It will rub off on you, and your days will seem that much better. Spending your time with bitter people will make you older and harder to be around.

13. Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your children or grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that is). Sure, being surrounded by family sounds great, but we all need our privacy. They need theirs and you need yours. If you've lost your partner (our deepest condolences), then find a person to move in with you and help out. Even then, do so only if you feel you really need the help or do not want to live alone. God said "It is not good for man to be alone." (Genesis 2:18)

14. Don't abandon your hobbies. If you don't have any, make new ones. You can travel, hike, cook, read, dance. You can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a garden, play cards, checkers, chess, dominoes, golf. You can paint, volunteer or just collect certain items. Find something you like and spend some real time having fun with it.

15. Even if you don't feel like it, try to accept invitations – baptisms, graduations, birthdays, weddings, conferences. Try to go. Get out of the house, meet people you haven't seen in a while, experience something new (or something old). But don't get upset when you're not invited. Some events are limited by resources, and not everyone can be hosted. The important thing is to leave the house from time to time. Go to museums, go walk through a field. Get out there.

16. Be a conversationalist. Talk less and listen more. Some people go on and on about the past, not caring if their listeners are really interested. That's a great way of reducing their desire to speak with you. Listen first and answer questions, but don't go off into long stories unless asked to. Speak in courteous tones and try not to complain or criticize too much. Try to accept situations as they are. Everyone is going through the same things, and people have a low tolerance for hearing complaints. Always find some good things to say as well.

17. Pain and discomfort go hand in hand with getting older. Try not to dwell on them, but accept them as a part of the cycle of life we're all going through. Try to minimize them in your mind. They are not who you are, they are something that life added to you. If they become your entire focus, you lose sight of the person you used to be.

18. If you've been offended by someone – forgive them. If you've offended someone – apologize. Don't drag around resentment with you. It only serves to make you sad and bitter. It doesn't matter who was right. Someone once said: "Holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die." Don't take that poison. Forgive, forget and move on with your life.

19. If you have a strong belief, savor it. But don't waste your time trying to convince others. They will make their own choices no matter what you tell them, and it will only bring you frustration. Live your faith and set an example. Live true to your beliefs and let that memory sway them. As St. Francis said, "Preach the Good News (Gospel) at all times, and if necessary, use words."

20. Laugh a lot. Laugh at everything. Remember, you are one of the lucky ones. You managed to have a life, a long one. Many never get to this age and never get to experience a full life. But you did. So what's not to laugh about? Find the humor in your situation.

21. Take no notice of what others say about you and even less notice of what they might be thinking. They'll do it anyway, and you should have pride in yourself and what you've achieved. Let them talk and don't worry. They have no idea about your history, your memories and the life you've lived so far. There's still much to be written, so get busy writing and don't waste time thinking about what others might think. Now is the time to be at rest, at peace and as happy as you can be!

And remember: Life is too short to drink bad wine or eat bad food!


  1. Please enjoy your family time! When it is all over let us know how it went, You are so blessed with your family.

  2. Blessings to you and yours! Have a very Merry Christmas!

  3. Awesome! Enjoy the time with your family.

    We will be patient.

    tic-toc tic-toc tic-toc tic-toc tic-toc tic-toc….

    Montana Guy

  4. Enjoy your Christmas and your family!!

  5. Boomerest advice ever. Don't leave anything to your kids, live for yourself and be independent.

  6. Good advice! Except he left out the most important part: Continue to lean into and trust Jesus. Read your Bible, meditate on Scripture, find and listen to good sermons, find and join a good church where the pastor preaches and loves the Bible. Pray every day. Serve others by praying for them. God can (and will) do more for them than you could ever do! Pray all day every day about everything. Remember, no one makes it out alive. You are going to live forever somewhere! We all need the Lord and ever more so the older we get! Merry Christmas!!!

  7. I would expect nothing less, absolutely enjoy your family for their entire stay, anything that needs to be done can be done after they leave. Especially when your youngster is on leave. I know I enjoyed my youngster when he was on leave. Who says that Christmas can only be celebrated December 25. We are celebrating the birth of our Lord, and that should be celebrated all year long. Merry Christmas.
    Rita Miller

  8. Merry Christmas. Have a great family time.

    Kathy in MS

  9. Merry Christmas to you and yours. What a blessing to have your family together. Enjoy.

  10. I hope you'll have an amazing and fun Christmas! Enjoy your holidays!

  11. Will wait for your next post. May you will have a perfec Christmas with your family!

  12. Family together in Christmas will have great celebration.

  13. I love the perspective on this. This sounds interesting .Thanks for sharing!

  14. I'm so glad to see that you have not posted yet. That means that your family get together is going well. Anymore that is such a rare and blessed event. Either that or you are all in jail.--ken