tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post7850013606832158763..comments2024-03-18T15:02:43.329-07:00Comments on Rural Revolution: Children are the biggest regretPatrice Lewishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06012022335047974670noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-48141036148518943962016-01-23T20:45:19.376-08:002016-01-23T20:45:19.376-08:00Yeah because they are incapable of empathy towards...Yeah because they are incapable of empathy towards anyone who is not just like they are. It's not THAT hard to understand another persons perspective..or it shouldn't be.IVYOWLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17924805744378340881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-51239728445273848852016-01-23T20:43:16.829-08:002016-01-23T20:43:16.829-08:00This happened to me. He beat and choked me and for...This happened to me. He beat and choked me and forced me to have sex without birth control The only reason I didn't become pregnant is I was extremely lucky. I was infertile. And I am glad I was infertile. I am happily childless. But yeah, in domestic abuse situations that is SO common. IVYOWLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17924805744378340881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-50611963254559133002016-01-23T20:33:12.607-08:002016-01-23T20:33:12.607-08:00You assume a lot about people you don't even k...You assume a lot about people you don't even know. IVYOWLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17924805744378340881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-27157692943621318072015-08-25T22:21:39.231-07:002015-08-25T22:21:39.231-07:00Doesn't your heart ache more for the children ...Doesn't your heart ache more for the children who have been born and abused and sadly sometimes killed by their parents? Blognymphhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14974105167856159379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-80438167602544059632013-10-25T17:49:51.260-07:002013-10-25T17:49:51.260-07:00same here. never wanted kids myself, but that does...same here. never wanted kids myself, but that doesn't mean I hate kids. I have many nieces and nephews and I love them. i'm just glad I had the courage to do what's right for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-21738428558224241002013-07-29T20:43:04.223-07:002013-07-29T20:43:04.223-07:00Exactly...children are not for everyone!Exactly...children are not for everyone!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-50075126211106489912013-07-29T20:41:13.832-07:002013-07-29T20:41:13.832-07:00There is a way out...don't give in to pressure...There is a way out...don't give in to pressure!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-27130879358995796182013-07-07T21:23:54.736-07:002013-07-07T21:23:54.736-07:00For your information, not all child dislikers are ...For your information, not all child dislikers are evil. As humans, we have the right to choose not to reproduce. Take me, for example. I don't have any kids and I'm glad because I want nothin' to do with troublesome children, although I don't think at all of them are that way.<br /><br />It seems to me that you want everyone to think in the same way that you think. Well ,you're wrong if you think that others should be like you.<br /><br />Who cares if there are people who don't like children? It's their lives. Let 'em live the ways that they wanna live.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-14945724584890496742013-06-25T19:50:40.691-07:002013-06-25T19:50:40.691-07:00Better for parents to post regrets about having ch...Better for parents to post regrets about having children anonymously than to use their real names and their children's names, which is an incredibly cruel thing to do to a child. <br /><br />That said, some parents do get irritatingly self-righteous about how they can't IMAGINE regretting their child. I would bet plenty of those types probably mistreat their children as badly if not worse than people who are struggling with their feelings. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-71616888892743248712013-05-21T16:42:23.158-07:002013-05-21T16:42:23.158-07:00" She never wanted any but had a husband that..." She never wanted any but had a husband that did want them, but only as a way to control her. "<br /><br />This is me. Marital rape is real. Where are you suppose to go if you married to get away from your parents. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-3895735022890211792013-05-03T16:30:37.111-07:002013-05-03T16:30:37.111-07:00I am glad I never had kids. Throughout my life, I ...I am glad I never had kids. Throughout my life, I have moved around, gone through financial hardships, had some tough times in marriage and struggled to find things I enjoyed doing work wise. I would never, ever want a child to go through these kinds of problems with me. People tell me I would have been a good father. I say nothing to them, but I think, "No, you are 100 percent wrong."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-89951457758697418742013-04-18T18:36:34.578-07:002013-04-18T18:36:34.578-07:00All my life, all I wanted was to be a Mom. The ki...All my life, all I wanted was to be a Mom. The kind of Mom my own Mother was to me. I even came up with 24 girl names and 24 boy names - just in case. My six children, 4 biological and 2 adopted,. are the most precious gifts God could have ever given me. I know I am blessed. My children are, and I know I am biased, the most loving and loyal and responsible children I have ever met. Okay, so they aren't perfect, but they are loving, very loyal and each has a very strong work ethic. They would do anything for me and I would do anything for them. <br /><br />Having said that, I have a friend who has 4 children, 3 biological and one a step child. Out of these 4 only one will speak with her consistently. None of them will help her when she is in need (as she is now.) All their lives she told them how unwanted they are. She never taught them the value of family, loyalty or the value of a strong work ethic. Three of her children are on Welfare - none of mine are.<br /><br />My friend now lives with me because she can't live alone any longer due to a disability. She is a good person, just one who should never had children. She never wanted any but had a husband that did want them, but only as a way to control her. <br /><br />I feel bad for people who have children when they don't really want them. I feel worse for the children of those parents. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02026688584000488389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-51928475272196914202013-04-17T15:18:21.402-07:002013-04-17T15:18:21.402-07:00Children are wonderful, especially when raised cor...Children are wonderful, especially when raised correctly! I I believw that a majority if thosw parets who "hate" ther<br />Kids is because they did not teach them reapect or dissaplonw them! Our 9 year old daughter was so sweet yesterday, after our softball practice I was in the truck when I just started balling about how my "stretchy pants" were tight I'm fat! My husband said " honey your beautiful and not fat, ur pregnant and the baby is getting bigger, lets go shopping!" Our daughter said " mommy, ill buy you some shorts, I have 24.00 from papa here in my purse" seriously how sweet was she to offer to buy me pregger clothes with her own money! So you see even though children can and will drive us parents crazy they so make up in the sweet things they say and do! :)Prepared Teacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10735435995999617968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-26807180619901589412013-04-17T11:25:31.288-07:002013-04-17T11:25:31.288-07:00There are those lord their having children over th...There are those lord their having children over those who don't. A friend of mine married a woman with a seven-year old daughter from a previous marriage. He made a point of calling her HIS daughter all the time and how I couldn't possibly fathom what it was like to be a dad. All of that stopped once my wife gave birth to our daughter six months ago. Suddenly he doesn't want to share stories of parenthood. Jay from Phillynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-30074349049090928632013-04-17T04:19:25.210-07:002013-04-17T04:19:25.210-07:00I have a relative who was constantly finding ways ...I have a relative who was constantly finding ways to dump her kids off onto someone else while they were growing up. I got dumped on plenty. One day I asked why she didn't want to spend time with her kids, and her reply to me was, "When your kids are my kids age, you won't want to spend time with them, either." I didn't have kids at the time, but I thought it was horrible. Even today, with one child about to start college and the youngest a young teen, I have never felt I didn't want to spend time with them. There are days they drive me crazy, but I have put my heart into raising them so that they will be self-sufficient, contributing members of society.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-67472072300633696552013-04-16T20:28:07.564-07:002013-04-16T20:28:07.564-07:00I can accept, albeit with horror, that there are p...I can accept, albeit with horror, that there are people out there who are wicked enough not to really love their children. However, I have a hard time believing that they can be wicked enough to actually let their children know this! If you have children, suck it up, learn to appreciate them and never, ever, tell them that you don't love them. And stop being so hideously selfish!Lisa Beth W.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-26285621714401240282013-04-16T19:29:38.015-07:002013-04-16T19:29:38.015-07:00Not to nit-pick, but there isn't always a way ...Not to nit-pick, but there isn't always a way with breast-feeding. Had I exclusively breast-fed my daughter, she probably would have starved, and we supplemented with formula b/c she was losing more and more weight. (And yes, I did see a lactation consultant.)<br /><br />I managed to breast-feed my son, but he was absolutely tiny - so much so that I hated going to doctor's appts b/c I'd always get scolded by the doctor that he was so little, esp. since he started out at over 8lbs. Once he started on other foods, he started to bulk up, but it was quite the ordeal. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-88962590583916867052013-04-16T18:01:30.958-07:002013-04-16T18:01:30.958-07:00Wow....we love kids so much we have fostered and a...Wow....we love kids so much we have fostered and adopted.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-64019513033002691612013-04-16T14:28:20.115-07:002013-04-16T14:28:20.115-07:00My brain knows there are people who dislike their ...My brain knows there are people who dislike their own children and find them nothing but burdens. But my heart rejects the idea entirely. I have 7 grown children and nearly a dozen grandbabies, and I adore and cherish each one. I wish I could have had twelve. I wish there was never a need to ever quit adding cherubs to my family. <br /><br />Were they a lot of work? Absolutely! Did they cause me worry and heartache? A lot! Did I spend years dragged down and tired? Yes! Did they give me tons of love and joy? Absolutely! Would I turn back time and not have any or all of them again? Not by any stretch of the imagination. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-47505675522329330282013-04-16T12:01:42.497-07:002013-04-16T12:01:42.497-07:00I must say, she wrote a very good article, though ...I must say, she wrote a very good article, though very heartbreaking. I too, appreciate her honesty and also the resolve that she had to raise her children to the best of her ability. Sometimes we need to do the right thing even if we don't feel like it - my kids often hear me say that.<br /><br />Parenthood demands GREAT sacrifices, however it also offers back unending rewards - rewards that continue until the day we die. <br /><br />Two of our seven children playfully squabble over who "gets to have" mom and dad when we're too old to care for ourselves. My 12 year old gave me $5.00 in a card the other day (just because) to be used for a "fancy coffee" out. My 4 year old told me that I was cute, the other day. It's been a long time since I've been told that! <br /><br />Yes, they drive me nuts! Quite often in fact. Yes, there are days when I wondered, "What was I thinking, having all these kids?" But at the end of the day, how can I say, "They're not worth it?" Everyone of them is so precious!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00886447097824017816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-71547402825726220552013-04-16T08:22:23.487-07:002013-04-16T08:22:23.487-07:00Wow what a mean miserable woman she must have been...Wow what a mean miserable woman she must have been. How thoughtless to bend your ear with her misery. Some folks just don't think before they open their mouths. Coffeefreek53https://www.blogger.com/profile/17000391628953550653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-17097135308072172562013-04-16T07:33:48.396-07:002013-04-16T07:33:48.396-07:00Growing up, all I wanted to be was a DINK - Dual I...Growing up, all I wanted to be was a DINK - Dual Income, No Kids. Then I met my now-husband and within months found out we were pregnant. Being completely against abortion, I decided I would raise the child either with my then-boyfriend or without him. God changed my heart in many, many ways during those 9 months, and nine months after her birth, her father and I were wed.<br /><br />Fast forward nearly five years later, and we are blessed with a second child. Holding my three-month-old makes me want more! Once career driven, with a bachelors and a masters degree, I'm trying to find ways to quit my career and stay home with my children.<br /><br />It has been difficult. My son is tongue-tied and had feeding issues, as well as an overnight stay in the hospital after contracting influenza at 3-weeks-old. But I would never give them back. They are a blessing! And raising them is a blessing!<br /><br />Annanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-58403803880722685512013-04-16T07:14:52.691-07:002013-04-16T07:14:52.691-07:00Interesting, I saw that yahoo (or whatever) articl...Interesting, I saw that yahoo (or whatever) article but didn't get around to reading it. Personally I could understand if the gal had thought she wanted kids and then it turned out while she liked the idea she did not like the reality. I suspect that happens a lot more than anybody will admit. <br /><br />However it loses me when she KNEW SHE DIDN'T WANT KIDS! You get Chinese take out instead of pizza or see movie A instead of movie B for a partner. You suck it up and go to their friend who drives you crazy's BBQ for a partner. These are all discrete events of (though it may not seem to at the time) short duration and a partner does the same thing for you. However kids do not fall into that category at all. <br /><br />I fear the "love will conquer all" folks miss the point here. Some practical major stuff cannot be bargained on. One partner cannot have a simple rural life while the other pursues a high powered career in a major urban center. Along those same lines you can't split the difference between no kids and kids. These things really need to be deal makers.Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09612373437033635765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-68064359720528638712013-04-15T20:15:43.134-07:002013-04-15T20:15:43.134-07:00I just can't imagine! People are so selfish, ...I just can't imagine! People are so selfish, it's the human epidimic. Just think, there are so many women who are going through infertility issues who would love to be in their shoes. As a momma with two little boys and three babies in heaven I can tell you, without a doubt, each child is a blessing from the LORD. I believe having the opportunity to be a mother, to love, nurture and train them well, is the greatest privilege (and responsibilty) in the world. I wouldn't trade a minute of it. <br /><br />Intersting post! Thanks for sharing. I agree with you that people should think before having children. Rachel Beranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00324124235452940506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5526768924178592295.post-70758330903343879912013-04-15T19:43:14.476-07:002013-04-15T19:43:14.476-07:00What's really sad is that there are entire ano...What's really sad is that there are entire anonymous boards full of women who regret having their children. Here is one example:<br />http://anonymousmom.com/<br /><br />It's incomprehensible to me.sunshinemaryhttp://sunshinemaryandthedragon.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com