In-your-face stuff from an opinionated
rural north Idaho housewife.
The expected registering of women for the draft is another "blessing" of feminism. I don't think it will be good for the military or for women, if large numbers of women are ever drafted. Most YOUNG American women are not the hard-minded pragmatists of nations like Israel. Heck, the average Israeli woman is probably tougher than an equal age American MAN anymore. We've raised a generation (a most TWO)of mental-case ninnies.
I agree. Israeli women need to be tough, just look where they live. American women are different, they are wannabees in most cases. I'm not saying women shouldn't serve. I served in the Army with many.
Agreed. I never wanted to be drafted and we will never raise our daughters to desire military service. A woman's role is on the home-front, not the front-lines. If the women had been drafted during WW2, how would the American family/ home have survived?If feminists want to be added to the draft, why don't they just go ahead and join up now instead of ruining the lives of countless young women who desire marriage and family? Apparently, there are no more real men in America, so we need to draft the women... or, they are all "gender confused".
Wow, Patrice...this is a great article....May sound harsh to some, but a wake up call for sure...I am 68 and have 4 grown children and 8 grands....Even though I don't see them on a daily basis, I know they are there for hubby and me...We are in ill health and our grown children are a great comfort for us.I know a couple younger women who have no one because they chose not to marry and have children...Very sad when I think of them in their older years...I pray for them. I can't imagine what it would be like to not have a family...even tho sometimes it is hard with bad choices in the family, it is still a family..The way God ordained it to be....Thank you for your in your face reality with this article...One more thing: Love your new addition to the herd...He is adorable, as all the newbies are....Love from NC
Wow, Patrice...this is a great article....May sound harsh to some, but a wake up call for sure...I am 68 and have 4 grown children and 8 grands....Even though I don't see them on a daily basis, I know they are there for hubby and me...We are in ill health and our grown children are a great comfort for us.I know a couple younger women who have no one because they chose not to marry and have children...Very sad when I think of them in their older years...I pray for them. I can't imagine what it would be like to not have a family...even tho sometimes it is hard with bad choices in the family, it is still a family..The way God ordained it to be....Thank you for your in your face reality with this article...Love from NC
I'm inclined to agree.Feminism doesn't just lie to women about what is truly fulfilling. You'd think we ought to be smart enough to figure out for ourselves what will bring us joy. Feminism also lies about the true nature of men, and the place of women. I'd certainly be happier, today, if I'd grown up understanding that a wife's only purpose is to serve as a tool for furthering the goals of her husband. It's not that I mind-- what's good for him is good for me-- but it was a very painful learning curve getting to this place.
In any instance where God is eliminated you have more tragedy resulting in the empty void left in the soul. Feminism, like most isms, relies in hubris on the thoughts of man rather than God in order to exert control.
Great article Patrice. Thanks for speaking the truth about the damage of feminism. We can't deny and destroy what God has determined as important and not suffer the consequences. Cindy
There is too little information to draw valid conclusions; I'm sure childlessness can enhance depression in middle-aged and older women. But I have a number of middle-aged friends who do have (grown-up) children, but who were left by their husbands for much younger women, and who are quite depressed and angry because of THAT. So it would be interesting to know how many of the women in this statistics actually had kids and were married, but were left by their husbands. (I am aware that you might blame feminism for the deplorable behaviour of many men, but here I would strongly disagree).
Perhaps these women you speak of are horrendous shrews and drove the men in their life away, into the arms of better women. Relationships are a two way street. You don't know what truly goes on in peoples' lives behind closed doors. The vast majority of men in this world will stay with their wife if she doesn't morph into a pain in the ass. Too many women use menopause as a crutch to be jerks to the men in their lives.
every divorced woman I know has divorced her husband , not the other way around, thinking the grass was going to be greener somewhere else...and they took their husbands to the cleaners on the way out the door with his kids. Maybe it is different here in Michigan.Karen
No, these are actually lovely women. I don't know the men in question and I take the women's explanations with a grain of salt, but I've seen enough irresponsible men to believe in the "poor guy driven away by horrible woman"-hypothesis.I've recently read an interview with a high profile divorce lawyer who said that it turns out that in many cases where the woman initates the divorce it was actually the man who wanted one first. According to this lawyer, the women usually do not succeed in, as you say, take their husbands to the cleaners. Laws and customs in my country seem to favor husbands over wives. Maybe it's different in your part of the world.
Didn't read the article, sorry. But I wanted to say that feminism has not only killed the American woman, but destroyed the American family and made wimps and cry babies of our men. But I think that is what was intended so as to be able to make more people beholden to our government. And the destruction of Christians in America (!) I am sure has roots in feminism, too.Be safe and God bless.
Bloggers Dalrock, Vox Day and Hawaiian Libertarian can provide research to back up your ideas.
I didn't marry or have children -- same demographic as you, Patrice -- and every day I thank God I didn't bring loving souls into this loveless world.
I respect your choice because you are the one who has to live with it, not me. However, historically there have always been famines, wars, threats of war, plagues, genocide, social unrest, ect. There is no perfect time or environment to have children but every day I thank God for my two wonderful kids and one beautiful granddaughter. SuccotashRose
I am reminded of a quote by Brandon Smith. He was referring to the failure of 'sheeple', but I believe it applies to those drank the Kool-aid of the failed Feminist movement.Brandon said, "I cannot imagine a torture more terrifying than to realize in the face of one's final days that one wasted his entire life trying to tow the establishment line and promote the establishment view, instead of educating one's self and molding a better tomorrow for their children." The pain must be 10-fold for women who chose career over children. Now it is too late. Sad.Montana Guy
What feminism killed was the matriarchy. All these feminist myths about the fabled patriarchy have never been anything but a story to keep the troops motivated. What kept upper middle aged women going as gravity and age did it's work was their transition to the matriarchal leadership which is now long gone and ground into dust.With out the spouses, children and grand children there is nothing left to look forward to because the matriarchy is dead.Suicide looks better than an old age life filled with cats and trips to bingo at the local group retirement home.
I'm 42, as a kid my parents threatnd me that if I got pregnant as a teen, they'd basically disown me, kick me out, and murder me - not necessarily in that order. I was petrified. It was a dysfunctional home and I did not benfit from good loving role models on marriage and the blessings of children. My father reminded us often of how we were an inconveniece to him (my parents are in their 70's and still in their very dysfunctional marriage). I ultimately found a good man (just had our 19th anniversary), but he was strongly adverse to having children due to some of the dysfunction that he grew up with. (Like attracts like?) So we didn't even try to have kids and now that we are older, we wish we had been able to work through some of our issues to have had children at a reasonable age. Sigh..:live & learn I guess. We will just be lonely as we get older I suppose.
Take heart, Anonymous. You may not have people born to love you forever, but you don't HAVE to be lonely and sad. Pour your life into loving God and other people. If you have no one to visit you, then maybe you can be the person who visits others who have no one. Or maybe you can make a difference in the life of a kid who's growing up in similar circumstances to yours--you can be the caring adult that listens to them and guides them when their parents have abdicated that duty. Don't give up hope. I'm a childless middle-aged woman but I'm not meekly accepting some people's view that I'm a waste of space and oxygen. God has a purpose for us, too.
As a childless-not-by-choice woman, this was a very hard read. I am continually reminded by other Christians that childlessness is a clear sign of God's disfavor and that the future I face is bleak, sad, and hopeless. I get that. But I choose to rest in God, that He will watch over me when the time comes. I trust that He had a purpose in closing my womb, even if I don't know what it is. So while others are clinging to their children and grandchildren, God has invited me to cling to Him. My future does not have to be bleak and hopeless just because other Christians say so.
Your future ISN'T bleak. You have God, remember? He covers all the bases. Feminism has tried to strip God out of womens' lives, which contributes to the hopelessness so many feel. You may not have children, but you have eternal life ahead of you. Hard to beat that. You've done well.- Patrice
Thank you, Patrice. I do agree that feminism and abortion have wrought horror and lead to depression and despair. It violates God's order to snub His blessings, or to intentionally choose a harsh affliction like childlessness. At the same time, parents should watch they don't make idols of children and grandchildren (or any other thing) by placing them above God in importance.
My mothers dear best friend never married nor had any children , and as the baby of a family of 12 , all her siblings died off years before her , she worked at a job as the first woman editor of a construction firm , something which did not get her a lot of friends....BUT when my father died , she as a Christian woman said she saw the devastation in my mothers eyes and the fear and heartbreak in us childrens eyes , and she devoted many hours to our lives ..she poured herself into our lives , and was a good companion to my mother in her elderly years until her death , and a great help to us kids as my mother turned more to drinking to cover her suffering, so that the last 10 years of her life I poured myself into my Moms friends life , she had family meals and holidays and I took her to Drs 2 to 3 times a week and shopped and cleaned for her , she was never alone at all ...sat with her in endless hospital rooms, because she chose to give of her life to others...no one needs to give birth and marry to pour themselves into someones lives, there are so many lost struggling people that could use a Christian woman who is not tied down by her own obligations. Why would this be a sign of disfavor by God ??? To do His work where you find it. When she died we found stacks of letters from people over the years thanking her for moral support or some small financial support (gas money to college for a week for a nephew) etc , of course no one can expect that their good deeds will come back to bless them later ,,,but they often do. Karen
Patrice,Something strange going on here. I tried several time to send this link to my wife. Other links made it fine, but the link to your article NEVER showed up. Checked spam, junk folders, etc. Nothing!! You are being filtered. Finally after typing in the full url, my wife was able to read your article. she agrees with you whole heartly as she is similiar age.All I can think of you must have hit a cord out there that someone disagrees with...We were lucky.. I was 43 and my wife 39 when we married. We have a beautiful daughter 25 who is a god fearing woman living the right life. Keep up the good work... you are hitting the right cord, so to speak...George Ohio
I can't quite verbalize this as clearly as I'd like, but I think a great deal of this is a result of not only the rise of feminism, but also the rise of materialism. I was a teenager in the 80s, and the mantra of "spend, spend, spend" that I used to hear seems to continue to play in the background today, like some sort of subliminal message. No one needs a new iPhone simply because it has been released, no one needs 675 television channels, no one needs to buy a car every two years, etc. Women began working, so they began making lines of products which made their lives easier (yeah, right) and allow them to "bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan." With all this new money coming in (not that it was equal to that of a man, but still, it was more money), manufacturers must have realized how lucky they were--feminism has truly filled the pockets of many a "good-old boy" over the past few decades.One lovely Recession later, a few latchkey generations "raised" by the NEA, and add some whiz-bang technology, and Americans are actually poorer today than they've been in a long time--whether by bad spending decisions or simply by not being able to earn enough in the position they have (two minimum-wage job couples come to mind).I wrote something similar to this a couple of years ago in my personal blog, Wife, the Great and Powerful, titled "The iPhone 6 and the Teddy-Tickle-Me-Cabbage Generation." I had trouble verbalizing it then as well, but I think you've found another piece of the puzzle for me, Patrice. Another great entry!Maria