Self-Sufficiency Series

Saturday, January 19, 2013

Fatherless girls

Here's my WND column for this weekend, entitled Fatherless Girls.


Clearly not a barn-burner when compared to the Second Amendment issues raging at the moment, but I felt compelled to follow up last week's theme of fatherless boys.

11 comments:

  1. Hi There

    I love the light in your current mast head!

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  2. Hi there

    I love the light in your current mast head. Very pretty

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  3. I am fatherless due to my mother's poor choices. Growing up I have to say being a girl and not having a dad indeed affected how I viewed my own worth. I had no idea how I was supposed to be treated by anyone. I am grateful I saw through the feminist lie at a very young age.

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  4. So very true. There's a reason why I'm entering the third decade of my life and still haven't married yet. Too many men expect sex without responsibility (I've had offers), and the girls I see around me getting pregnant without getting married give me a good reminder to keep waiting. Such a shame that this is acceptable behavior now. If I had lived a hundred years ago, I would be a wife and mother now, and the happiest woman on earth.

    ~Lily~

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  5. Fathers are indeed the answer to America's problems.

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  6. There are some fatherless girls who are luckier than others. These are the ones who have a responsible uncle, grandfather, or even older brother who teaches them the things that a "real" father would teach them. I knew of a 22-year-old brother who had been a father to his 15-year-old sister since he was 14. He supervised her school work, helped her pick out suitable clothing (nothing extreme that would attract unfavorable attention), and after he was old enough to have a job he helped her have things (money for special school activities etc) that other girls had. Needless to say,she became a very stable young lady with good self-esteem (I HATE that term but in this case it describes the situation). Many of the girls she knew were not so lucky in the family situation and made the bad choices. The father doesn't have to be the sperm donor but does have to be the one takes the father's responsibilities.

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  7. "In short, fatherless girls have babies. Without fathers."

    Good summation.

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  8. We not only need men to be fathers that are MARRIED to the mother, we need men to be fathers in the sense that they are raising and guiding their offspring. Just as mothers need to do.

    Each job is such a tremendous responsibility that there is no way a parent can do both roles. I am a woman and I could never think like a man and give a young girl the role model that a dad would, modeling the behavior that she should look for when she begins dating. It just doesn't work. My role is modeling correct womanly behavior. Kids need both parents.

    sidetracksusie

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  9. Wow. So what happens when the father dies and the mother is too heartbroken to ever marry again? And then the children grow up with just the mother?

    I am a child of just such an occurrence and with some odd twist of fate I am now a widow with 3 young boys. Does that doom me to having horrible children too?

    I'm sorry, but I just don't agree.

    Please give the single mothers who really do a great job their due too.

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    1. Oh please, Gertrude, do I seem like the kind of person who condemns widows? I have two friends whose husbands have passed away and they're doing a wonderful job raising their children. There's an enormous difference between women who embark on single motherhood because they think men are unnecessary... and women who are sadly deprived of their children's father through no fault of their own (death, divorce, or abandonment).

      I'm sorry for the loss of your husband.

      - Patrice

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  10. Patrice, I posted a link to the WND article to my FaceBook and received a couple of responses. The most telling response was from a woman I "knew" from my online stepmom support group days who has all but removed her exhusband from her children's lives (boy and girl). She was almost nasty in stating if there was enough income in the family that the father was not necessary. I had to ask, did she actually READ the article? No response. My heart aches for her kids.

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