Country Living Series

Sunday, August 26, 2012

We Ain't Got no Self Control

Here's this weekend's WND column entitled We Ain't Got No Self-Control.

11 comments:

  1. A double negative!
    I wouldn't have expected that from you.

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    1. Please. "We ain't got no..."? Patrice is no hick. I'm sure it was meant as a joke. I believe it's called "literary license." By the way, excellent article, Patrice! As usual, you make total and PERFECT sense! --Fred in AZ

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  2. Love this piece, but I have to correct you on one thing. Autism is not an excuse for behavior problems. Our 9 year old autistic daughter has the expectation of proper manners. We know society will not ask if she is autistic and therefore give her a pass for bad manners, so we never have. She has consequences for ALL misbehaviors. Usually, she is the best behaved child when we are out in public. We have been complimented by strangers on numerous occasions on her manners. My response to this is always the same, "thank you, and to let you know if my daughter can behave there is no reason except bad parenting for these other children's misbehaviors. My daughter is autistic." The usually response is disbelief or they ask if I'm sure my daughter is autistic.
    I strongly agree with you that self-control is the most important thing that ANY child can be taught by their parent.
    We love our daughter too much to give up on her. We love our country too much to unleash an out of control adult on it one day

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  3. When my daughter was around two, she wanted something that I refused to give her. She threw herself on the floor, screaming. I carefully stepped over her and went about my household chores. After she realized that she was not going to get what she wanted, she stopped screaming, got up, and went to her toys and started playing. This only happened twice before she got the message--screaming does not work.

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  4. Patrice:
    This scripture came up while reading the article:
    Proverbs 16:32
    He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, And he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city. NKJV
    Excellent article, even with the double negative. ; )

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  5. this is why i dont go to department stores, shopping malls, walmart supercenters, and sams anymore...i just cannot stand the screaming and crying tantrums of other peoples children and i am afraid i might assault their parents.

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  6. Had to suffer through tax-free weekend LAST weekend and last-minute school shoppers THIS weekend. Got to see plenty of spoiled children who threw tantrums when they couldn't have the candy at the checkout or when you took something they weren't supposed to have away from them. Most parents just endured the screaming until they got out of the store, sometimes dragging or carrying the child over their shoulder. There was hardly any desire to discipline. But I still say the worst were the ones who gave in to stop the screaming.

    I'm so glad I'm getting out of retail. Won't miss it one bit. I can't wait to start my new office job next week. :)

    ~Lily~

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  7. Wow! You really broke it down to show just how insidious big government really has gotten.
    Now, I am pro-choice, reasoning that I will not deny another citizen the freedom to choose because of my religious convictions. You pointed out how I am being robbed(taxed) to finance their choice!

    I have some long hard thinking to do! Good job!

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  8. Wow! You really broke it down to show just how insidious big government really has gotten.
    Now, I am pro-choice, reasoning that I will not deny another citizen the freedom to choose because of my religious convictions. You pointed out how I am being robbed(taxed) to finance their choice!

    I have some long hard thinking to do! Good job!

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  9. Ok, took me a bit to add my 2¢, I find this commercial

    https://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=274499385897326

    This sums up what raising a child and discipline has come to. Some parents don't want to be bothered with the responsibilities and and don't have stamina that is required when you raise children.

    Just like with the things they buy, this type of person/parent wants instant gratification - they can't see beyond the moment and don't realize that the true gratification is when they are old and gray and can look back and say "we did good"

    I totally agree that it is hard to go out in the community and keep your mouth shut.

    Last week I spent some time with a grandmother and her two grandchildren (M/3, F/9). The girl was sweet and well behaved. The boy was a monster. Biting, hitting and screaming.
    He wanted to sit in my lap and I said ok. He started acting up and wanted to bite me when I told him that I won't have it. I unceremoniously plopped him down on the ground and treated him like air. He came back and said the would be a good boy.
    You can hit the repeat button here because it took 3 repeats till he got the message.
    The grandmother was surprised that he seemed to behave with me....go figure.

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  10. Working in retail has strengthened my resolve to have well behaved children. I used to work at the Joann's fabrics in CDA. I witnessed two of the worst children, old enough to know better. There was a 10 year old boy who's mother couldn't be bothered to keep a watchful eye on him. I knew he would be trouble right off the bat. It wasn't long before he had gone behind our cutting counter, swiped the $1500 scanning machine and took off with it. I took it back and told him that he should take things that weren't him. In defiance, he promptly stomped over to the $40 a yard silk bridal fabrics and started to shove them in his mouth. I think by that point his mom wrangled him up.

    But the one that takes the cake was 14 year old girl (I kid you not) who, while her mother was trying to get her fabric cut at the counter, threw a huge tantrum, lay down on the floor and literally did the whole kicking and screaming fit. Her mother was mortified (and rightly so). She politely apologized to the associate cutting her fabric and proceeded to grab her daughter by the arm and drag her from the store mid-tantrum. The girl began to shriek "You're hurting me!" It was all I could do not to yell out " Good! You could use some corporal punishment!"

    Renee

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